This might just come out as another food post, seeing as it’s 11:15 pm but it’s not (hopefully). I do apologise in advance to all my foodies out there that have come to enjoy my food musings if it’s not as yummy as you would have hoped.
I have known for some time that I suffer from minimum self-love. For a long time, I just didn’t know how to love myself and its still a nagging problem that I have to talk about it (or write about it). I have been that girl that has purposely stood behind every tall person in a group picture because the pretty woman told me even filters wouldn’t hide my ugliness 😢, I have been that girl that has used their phone cam to snap pictures of food, trees and dogs because they didn’t think they were photogenic (*sigh*) and I have been that girl that has listened to every negative comment savoured it and made it my theme song.
I have gotten remarks from “you too skinny for a black girl”, ” please don’t smile, your smile is ugly”, “you dress like a white person” to “bish please you repulsively unphotogenic”. I let them get to me and I forgot Song Of Solomon 4:7 in the midst of it all.
I am learning to love my clumsy self, to embracing my flaws and to even taking a second to snap a selfie (once a week). How do you self-love?
* Do daily affirmations. Stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself. Do it daily until you believe it!
*Download or buy a journal to write down your successes, what you are grateful for and what you like about yourself etc
*Switch off your inner critic and speak positivity about yourself.
*Eat healthily! Yep, veggies are badass and totally good for your body. Love your body enough to feed it vegetables.
* Pray &Meditate.
*You can’t say you love yourself if you haven’t shaved in 56 weeks. Shave, trim and take care of your body.
*Bless yourself with something you have been dying to get/do. Want to go hiking? Do it!
* Set aside time to unplug from social media, to enjoy your own company, to watch a romcom
*Prioritize sleep and exercise. Self-love is sleeping and not having all-nighters every day to binge watch Criminal Minds.
*Do not over-schedule, over-book or over-commit.
*Moisturize your skin.
* set aside a day to do your nails, DIY face masks etc
Learning to love yourself is similar to hiking the Kilimanjaro – its a step by step adventure. Love yourself every day and watch yourself go from plain water to a cappuccino ☕💕