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Till Death Do Us Part

I longily watch you recite ’till death us do part’ as a doting bride and a head over heels , crazy about you , wil stick with you in days we have bacon and days we don’t because that’s what I am supposed to do. But you know I am not fooling you because this is a marriage of convenience. You wanted a wife to warm your bed, make you dinner and host your uptight snobbish friends that refuse to grow up and of course shut your mother up because she got tired of worrying about your dirty laundry. Of course you are not selfish but selfless because we both had our reasons for lying to everyone. As I look at the sobbing woman in the front row my heart is a little quieter because it’s every child’s mandate to make their parents proud no matter the means. I have never seen my mother sob except now , she didn’t cry when I graduated, bought a car or got promoted at work . She just said Congratulations and kept it moving but today on the worst day of my life she is sobbing and clutching her husband’s hand as if everything I have done before now was a rehersal. I am marrying Ben not because we are crazy about each other and can’t keep our hands off each other but because I am thirty five going sixty five according to my Tete so here we are. Ben is nothing to me except a carrier of something I need and yes I hear it too when I say it out loud it sounds horrible but it’s what it is. Who could have thought that someone that stayed up all night with romantic novels and dreamnt of lingering kisses would end up in a loveless marriage with a man she barely cares of. Now don’t get me wrong because this man is as hot as they come and I can’t possibly tell you if he has ripped abs because I absolutely have no idea because we don’t have a relationship that’s sinful as my grandmother would say . Is this our first kiss? Yep!? Am I reciting ‘ don’t have garlic breath’ , of course! If anything I do pray he kisses my thoughts to silence and may my toes curl and not forgetting the miraculous sound of the hummingbird. Okay I need to snap out of it because this is nothing but a marriage of convenience. I wonder what is going through his mind as he recites his vows maybe it’s something like ” How did I end up with a dorky nerd for a bride” or is he longing for the one that got away? I do in a weird way feel sorry for him because he lost the one woman that he loved but we can’t cry over spilled milk right!? I wonder whose death will tear us apart. Cry me a whole river if it’s mine but till that day I will care for this deeply scarred man for our future children or will I?

This is not based on a true story but something that reared it’s head in my brain and since it’s my Year of Yes I just said cool let me put you on paper

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Year Of Yes by Shonda Rhimes – A Review

Just A Rant: I love Grey’s Anatomy but then again who doesn’t! I have had momentsduring an episode that I have wanted to have the kind of friendship Christina and Meredith had and other days I wanted to be Miranda Bailey . This book scared me because I had instances I could relate and would scream ‘Me too Shonda”

Genre: Nonfiction/Memoir

Ancillar’s Book Summary:

If you have not heard anout Shonda Rhimes uhmm please go to your laptop and in your search bar write ‘Shonda Rhimes’. This is a refreshing story about Shonda Rhimes herself who challenges herself to do the things that scare her .

Cover rating: 4/5

What I Loved From The Book: The way she was honest about her fears

Will I be reading more books by the author? Yes

Do you recommend this book? Yes

Overall rating on the sip meter (ratings are out of 5):

Rating: 4.5 out of 5.

Memorable Quotes

“I am not lucky. You know what I am? I am smart, I am talented, I take advantage of the opportunities that come my way and I work really, really hard. Don’t call me lucky. Call me a badass.”

“They tell you: Follow your dreams. Listen to your spirit. Change the world. Make your mark. Find your inner voice and make it sing. Embrace failure. Dream. Dream and dream big. As a matter of fact, dream and don’t stop dreaming until your dream comes true.
I think that’s crap.
I think a lot of people dream. And while they are busy dreaming, the really happy people, the really successful people, the really interesting, powerful, engaged people? Are busy doing.”
― Shonda Rhimes, Year of Yes

Lessons I took from the book:

☕ Stop Dreaming! Just don’t dream, do it too!

☕ You need genuine friends that support, root for you and are dependable

☕ If you want cake eat it but don’t complain about belly fat

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Odufa: A Lover’s Tale- A Review

Just A Rant: Odufa has been on my to do list for the longest and thank goodness I finally got into it *long siggghhh* and so I am stocked that Igot to read it and finish it

Publishing Date : May 22nd 2016

Trigger Warning: Infertility /Abuse /Domestic Violence

Ancillar’s Book Summary:

This book tells the story of Anthony a recent graduate who is also the narrator and has also found out that he cannot father children and Odufa who is slightly older than he is (which I was here for you). Anthony meets Odufa through her younger sister, Ulusi, who also likes him *sighh*. At the beginning Anthony battles with making a decision but he then eventually picks Odufa and their bumpy hold-on-to-your-seat-belt love affair begins. They say the course of true love never runs smooth but they were instances I wanted to slap them *laugh out loud* because they were just toxic for each other *slaps forehead*. No tea spilling here so go read the book

Cover rating: 3.5/5

What I Loved From The Book: The plot! To be honest it was engaging

Character/s I loved the most : I will get back to you because I am torn

Will I be reading more books by the author? Yes

Do you recommend this book? Yes

Overall rating on the sip meter (ratings are out of 5): ⭐⭐⭐⭐

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Fadzai Linel Mutemi Picks Five Books You Should Read

Linel is a Zimbabwean Bookstagrammer (follow her on Instagram @linelreads) who not only knows how to work a camera angle but she occassionally invokes debate on her Instagram stories (which I am here for)

Nervous Conditions

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“I was not sorry when my brother died “ is a striking start to any story, The whole book then goes on to give you the context that will make sense for such an assertion.
What I loved most was the depiction of life in Zimbabwe and the issues of gender and identity. I recommend this book because it is well written, it’s a modern classic. Someone mentioned that Nervous Condition can be viewed as an answer to Chinua Achebe’s Things fall apart.

Things fall apart

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When I read this book I was in awe of the sophistication in highlighting the intricate parts of African culture and how civilized it was before things fell apart. It transported me to the scenes in the books, the parts where the characters went dancing or watch a fight I felt as if I was part of the audience. This will make you proud to be African as it does not look at pre-colonial Africa as something that needed fixing, Life was whole, the community was organized and sophisticated. It is very easy to read.

Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi

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This book follows the lives of two sisters, one abducted and sent into slavery the other left behind. It spans through generations and I was in awe with such an amazing prowess in storytelling. It will reveal the complicated effects of this separation taking place on two different continents. Must read.

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay

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This is made up of essays that will give you knowledge on feminism and its role in this day and age in a manner and language that we the internet generation can understand.

Children of Blood and Bone

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I recommend this book because it is first of all very entertaining, as I was reading it I kept telling myself, this should be turned into a movie and I am glad there is going to be a movie and you should all read this before it comes out if you want to see African children with magic and superpowers because we are magic.

MEMORABLE QUOTE


A man who calls his kinsmen to a feast does not do so to save them from starving. They all have food in their own homes. When we gather together in the moonlit village ground it is not because of the moon. Every man can see it in his own compound. We come together because it is good for kinsmen to do so.” – Chinua Achebe: Things fall apart

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Aftermath- A Review

Just A Rant: It’s not a secret that if I get a good book I won’t stop reading till the very last page and it’s totally okay if I miss an episode of Brooklyn nine-nine *smiley emoji*

Publishing Date : May 11 2021

Genre: Christian Suspense

Ancillar’s Book Summary:

A huge thanks to Thomas Nelson for my ARC in exchange for an honest review. Oh man, this book was a surprise read! Someone pinch me and then pinch me some more because I have been sleeping on Terri Blackstock and now I am awake and ready for all her books. So Taylor is at a concert with her friends when a bomb explodes *sigh* but thankfully she survives. Immediately after Duston Webb an ex-army guy is picked up after an anonymous tip for the explosion and he ends up calling his childhood neighbour Jamie to help him. Oh mayn the twists and turns in this book are everything. I don’t want to spill some good tea but read it when it comes out

Cover rating: 3.5/5

What I Loved From The Book: The plot and the characters

Character/s I loved the most : I will get back to you because I am torn

Will I be reading more books by the author? Yes

Do you recommend this book? Yes

Overall rating on the sip meter (ratings are out of 5): ⭐⭐⭐⭐

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Write Me Back

There is something about a crowd that brings a false sense of security. In a crowd you feel daring to dance even if your two left feet are embarrassing, you feel courageous to walk over to that guy and tell him he is cute and ask for his number but in a crowd you can hide from the loneliness in your heart .

I knew when I was a chubby ten year old that I had to be either smarter than my classmates or faster. I hated running and I still do so I had to be smarter. So I worked my butt off in primary school to be smarter than my peers (thankfully I have the certificates to back my story) because everyone wants to be friends with the smart person right!?. It was in Primary School I met my first best friend. She was the most beautiful soul ever but I lost touch with her long siggh

I would find her later on in life but she was different. She was fierce ,she was tall and she had the confidence of a powerful woman. Some days I write her letters (I will never mail) so she knows I miss her and remind her of our pact. She doesn’t care anymore because we are not 10 and we are not the tallest girls in class anymore (I seriously wonder why I stopped growing and when)

She was the first person to sit with me on her mama’s lawn and say “You will be able to take care of a duck,you are a caring person ducks won’t run away from you”. I did ask for a duck but my mama said ‘No’ so I never got a duck.

Today is one of those days I miss her sob As I sit in solitude and think of the non-existing lunch dates ,the quietness of m phone I wanna cry for the friend I lost,the friend I want to bump again but maybe in another life I will see you from across the road with your family and your daughter will look straight at me and I won’t smile because ‘stranger danger’ and I will walk alway because I am no longer a part of your life . My heart will break but I will know you okay.

One day I will put the letters in a bottle and hope whoever finds them will write back . Send me a note ,text or letter and I will write back.

Write me back will be a series of letters on the blog to the people I hope will write back and some will never but hope we heal together.Some would be based on real events

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Rudo Manyere Picks Five Books You Should Read

Homegoing by Yaa Gyasi

Amazon.com: Homegoing (9781101971062): Gyasi, Yaa: Books
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Blurb: HomeGoing by Yaa Gyasi follows two Ghanaian sisters and their descendants. 

B.ridges over waters by Tirivashe Marandure

Amazon.com: B.ridge over waters: An anthology of African poetry, prose &  writing eBook: Marandure, Tsungai Tirivashe: Kindle Store
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I do not come to you by chance by Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani

I Do Not Come to You by Chance by Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani
Goodreads

Blurb : A deeply moving debut novel set amid the perilous world of Nigerian email scams, I Do Not Come to You by Chance tells the story of one young man and the family who loves him (via Goodreads)

Children of Blood and Bone by Tomi Adeyemi

Children of Blood and Bone : Tomi Adeyemi : 9781509871353
amazon.co.uk

Burb: Everyone has pretty much talked about this book at some point. Read blurb here

Sirens by Leroy Mthulisi Ndlovu

Sirens: Tales of Youth and Love: Ndlovu, Leroy Mthulisi, Rodrigues, Daniel  Emmanuel, Nyoni, Philani Amadeus: 9780620899819: Amazon.com: Books
Goodreads

Burb: Read here

Memorable Quote:

“Whose story do we believe, then…We believe the one who has the power. He is the one who gets to write the story. So when you study history, you must always ask yourself, Whose story am I missing? Whose voice was suppressed so that this voice could come forth? Once you have figured that out, you must find that story too. From there, you begin to get a clearer, yet still imperfect, picture.” – Yaw (Homegoing)

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Khanani Danielle Picks Five Books You Should Read

One of my favourite bookworm picks five books she thinks everyone should read and let me know in the comments which book you will be picking

  1. Tell me Your Dreams: Sidney Sheldon (1998).

she could go from a blissful euphoria to a desperate misery. She had no control over her emotions.”

This is an all time favorite. First read it in 2011 and I fell in love with the plot. Sidney says it’s based on a true story. It’s about the life of a girl (Ashley Prescott) with Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) and a couple of alter egos that were birthed to shield her from the horrible experiences she experienced as a young girl (Molestation by her father). I love this book because it was the first time, I got to learn about MPD and actually read about different people that have been diagnosed of it.

In the book, one of her alter egos (Toni Prescott) used to commit murders by castrating men, and she (Ashley the host) was prosecuted for it. She however didn’t know/ wasn’t in control when all these murders happened. In the end, justice triumphed and she was sent to an asylum instead of death row. The moral of the story to me was before prosecuting/ judging people, both legally and socially, lets put ourselves in their shoes because we’ve all had different experiences that have shaped the people we have become and how we interact with others.

2. Born a Crime: Trevor Noah (2016).

Everyone who knows me knows I love this book to the bits. Hahah firstly, because its hilarious. I didn’t know that authors could write and truly make their readers laugh that much. I adore this book also because it gives an insight to growing up in south Africa as a colored person, which Trevor Noah illustrates with such candor and amusement. I also love the relationship he has with his mother and grandmother and the role they played in pushing him to become who he has ultimately turned out into.

He also challenged me to learn different languages, especially in this global village that we are living in today.

“If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you speak to him in his language, it goes to his heart. You let the person know that you understand that they have a culture and identity that exists beyond me. I see you as a human being.”

This book is a must read for all Trevor Noah’s fans and for the lovers of comedy. 

3. Summer Breeze: Catherine Anderson (1889).

This is one of the books I read in my early reading years in 2009. It’s a story about loss, anguish and depression. The lead character, Rachel Hollister, from a wealthy family, loses her whole family in a fire as an infant and she resigns to darkness, afraid of the daylight, the world and human interaction, afraid to let anyone into her heart.

“ A ghost from her past, part of a world to which she no longer belonged but had never stopped missing.”

I love this book because it somewhat is a relational story to how society perceives people who have gone through loss and the judgement passed on them. Mostly, the patience that comes with love.  The romance bit is also one of the reasons I loved the book. How the story of this love unfolds and how love wins in the end, got me gripped on the book. I’ve read it at least 5 times now.

4. Fervent: Priscilla Shirer (2015).

This is a book am currently reading and am on strategy 9 as of today. If you watched war room then Priscilla Shirer, the prayerful wife, couldn’t have skipped your attention. It’s a book about prayer and creating strategies to fight back all the lies that the enemy has convinced you that you are. I love it because it has drawn my focus and priorities back to my first love, God. (Rev 2: 4.)

“We pray because our own solutions don’t work and because prayer deploys, activates and fortifies us against the attacks of the enemy. We pray because we are serious about taking back the ground that the enemy has sought to take from us.”

It has helped me realize the different areas in my life where I’d resigned and accepted defeat, but I must fight back on my knees. I love it!

5. Target Africa: Obianuju Ekeocha (2018).

Sadly, my last and most personal book to me is Target Africa. The circumstances under which I got to read this book I tell you, was a divine interjection. I love this book because it creates so much awareness about the Ideological Neocolonialism that Africans have tolerated for so long and the need for us to rise up and refuse this oppression; be it resources, our families, religion, bodily integrity, to mention but a few, as Africans, we need to reclaim ad hold firm to our culture and appreciate what God has blessed us with.

” The insistence on reducing the population of Africa, no matter what the cost to the African themselves is racism, imperialism and colonialism disguised as philanthropy.”

This is the tweet that led to author to Uganda. Can’t fathom it to date.

I wish this prompt had the provision of like 20 books and why. But well oh well, these are my top 5 for now.   

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Stay With Me- A Book Review

Just A Rant: I am sorry not sorry for crying because Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀ just went and opened my tearducts and here I am crying a river *sob sob*

Trigger Warning: Death of a child

Genre: African Contemporary

Ancillar’s Book Summary:

This novel is about Yejide and Akin, a young Nigerian couple struggling to have a family . It appears they’ve tried everything to no avail. Then enters the meddling in-laws who offer Akin a second wife so he may have a child and so begins the destruction of Akin and Yejide’s love.

Cover rating: 4/5

What I Loved From The Book: The plot and how the book tackled the issue of family meddling, culture and infertility

Character/s I loved the most : Yejide *sob*

Will I be reading more books by the author? Yes

Do you recommend this book? Yes

Overall rating on the sip meter (ratings are out of 5):

Rating: 5 out of 5.

Lessons I took from the book:

☕ Infertility has no gender! People should not be quick to point to the woman

☕ Family should mind their own and stay in their lane

☕ Good news will eventually chase you

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Tada Picks Five Books You Should Read

Tada is a Zambian book reader and reviewer who enjoys YA, poetry, self-help, and fantasy. Here are Five Books She Wants Everyone to Read:

Throne of Glass by Sarah J. Maas

Throne of Glass – Sarah J. Maas – Folio
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Blurb: Read here

Amazon.com: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of  Decluttering and Organizing (0710308291511): Marie Kondō: Books

The life-changing magic of tidying up by Marie Kondo

But when we really delve into the reasons for why we can’t let something go, there are only two: an attachment to the past or a fear for the future.” -Marie Kondo

Beach read by Emily Henry 

Beach Read by Emily Henry: 9781984806734 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books
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It is a frenemies to lovers romance between two writers *long sighh* sign me up

The lover’s dictionary by David Levithan

The Lover's Dictionary by David Levithan
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” I don’t want to be the strong one, but I don’t want to be the weak one, either. Why does it feel like it’s always one or the other? When we embrace, one of us is always holding the other a little tighter.”- from The Lover’s DictionaryDavid Levithan”

Born a Crime by Trevor Noah: 9780399588198 | PenguinRandomHouse.com: Books

Born a Crime by Trevor Noah 

Blurb: The memoir of one man’s coming-of-age, set during the twilight of apartheid and the tumultuous days of freedom that followed. (via Goodreads)

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