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#WinterABC21 | It’s a Boy Girl Thing

I grew up with this notion that Ivy League educated people were smarter than everyone and so I was of that notion that my Uncle was the smartest person in my family till one October Afternoon. You see, I wasn’t feeling well and that wasn’t a play but I was still expected to do the dishes and cook while my brother gained some kilos lounging like Garfield on my mother’s couch. I was shocked to silence by the audacity of this man *smoke in ears shocked* because i wasn’t well clearly but why was I the one cooking.

Some people including my uncle are of the notion that the kitchen belongs to the woman and men are meant to scream ” Are we having chicken tonight”. Okay firstly I am not angry like we assume all black women are but is the kItchen mostly for women. Is it a culturally thing that women cook in sickness and health while men are waiting on that dinner.

My jaw is still on the floor but the question remains ‘does the kitchen only belong to the woman?’

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The Rival by Takalani M – A Review

Just a rant : I can’t believe I finished a whole trilogy in one weekend *gasp* but sign me up for all the romances

Genre : African Contemporary Romance

Anci’s book summary : The Rival is the last book in THE ROYAL MISTRESS Trilogy, following the bumpy love life of now Chief Mulatshawe Ratshali *yep, the dreamy Mula from book 1*. In this book we meet more of Linda , Adelaide’s sister who is cunning and will do anything to be Mula’s wife. Culturally Mula can marry two wives but does he want to marry again?

Character/s I loved : Ria all day and also Mula

Character/s I related to: Ria!

Character/s that made me cringe: Adelaide’s sister Linda and Aunt Florence

Cover rating : 4/5

Would you read more books by the author ? Yes

Do you recommend this book ? Yes

RATINGS (RATING OUT OF 5)

Cuteness:

⭐⭐

Emotional-o-meter:

⭐⭐⭐

Kiss-o-meter:

⭐⭐⭐

Scary-o-meter

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Steam-o-meter:

⭐⭐⭐

.Overall rating:

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

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Adelaide- A Review

Just a rant : Takalani needs to stop messing with my emotions like sis I am tired of feeling when reading your books

Genre : African Contemporary Romance

Anci’s book summary : Adelaide is book two in The Royal Mistress Triology.Book begins where Book 1 left of at the will reading. In his will the Chief, Musanda left his only princess Rotshidzwa an inheritance that can only be accessed after she finds love. Rotshi is my fav but girl was wild and the Prince that she was meant to fall in love she doesn’t want. But does she fall for him? Or will Adelaide hinder happy ever after

Character/s I loved : Ria because she is just amazing and Zoleka

Character/s I related to: Ria!

Character/s that made me cringe: Adelaide’s sister Linda and Aunt Florence

Cover rating : 4/5

Would you read more books by the author ? Yes

Do you recommend this book ? Yes

RATINGS (RATING OUT OF 5)

Cuteness:

⭐⭐⭐

Emotional-o-meter:

⭐⭐⭐

Kiss-o-meter:

⭐⭐⭐

Scary-o-meter



Steam-o-meter:

Rating: 3 out of 5.


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Overall rating:

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.


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#WinterABC21 | The Three Sins of Social Media

First of all kudos to the tech companies that are investing tons of money into creating social media apps that we just love. Anyone else addicted to Pinterest? *raises both hands* I am obsessed with that app and yes you can say I am a pinner *wink*. Today’s post ain’t about my pinning tendencies but it’s about the things we are all guilty of when we use social media apps from my experiences.

Comparison

I won’t even pretend to be innocent because if I was in Judge Lola Carmichael’s courtroom (that badass judge from All rise) I would confess before I took the stand.

Anci’s Experience: If you know one thing about me that is if we haven’t had coffee then you know I love reading. When I started doing book reviews and sharing my amateurish bookish pictures I was having a blast because I was finally sharing something I was passionate about then. Then unfortunately or fortunately I discovered #Bookstagram and then comparison started. I was losing Instagram followers and getting a total of 10 likes a post and then that ugly monster reared its ugly head. I was comparing myself to other bookstagrammers and I felt short -short of the bookstagrammer title, short of recognition and my joy was running empty. You see comparison makes you compare yourself and lead you to feel some discontent. The more I spent on Instagram, the bigger negative thoughts reared and the comparison kept ongoing.

Envy

Envy is the opposite of love and yes I am guilty of that too because social media brings out the dirty laundry in piles.

Anci’s Experience: Sometimes envy turns us into bad people because it happens. I have had days that I have said “I wish I had her following, I wish I took good pictures like her, I wish I was appreciated and liked like her, I wish I also got book mail and I wish I was as awesome as she is”

Addiction

Addiction is real hey, If you don’t believe me find an app that tracks your social media app usage and yes we all have spent 4 hours on Instagram but that doesn’t mean it’s healthy

Which one are you guilty of?

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#WinterABC21 | Neflix &Sleep Like A Boss

I don’t know who doesn’t want to hear this but Netflix can easily steal hours of your time and I am proof. One Saturday I wanted to do my laundy,spring clean and bake after an episode of Brooklyn Nine but I will let you know that i binge watched two seasons and never did anything.

Tech is amazing but a TV that you can carry around is a weapon of unproductiveness, Guys I won’t lie Netflix kept us sane during a pandemic and also wooow how does one episode become 50. Kudos to Netflix for creating an app but they took our self-control with it too.

Here are some cool Netflix facts that show how this streaming Giant is dominating our living rooms:

1.Netflix still has the largest subscriber count in 2021 as reported by Comparitech. 2. Netflix was one of the first streaming services available as an app on different devices(via Comparitech)

Yes I do have an addiction to watching The Big Bang Theory , Brooklyn Nine-Nine,Sister Siter and Moesha. What are you watching?

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Checking In: How Getting Real about Depression Saved My Life—and Can Save Yours- A Review

Just a rant: I am very passionate about Mental Health and yes I will forever scream Mental health matters because I refuse to lose anyone. While you are still here remember to CHECK on your STRONG FRIENDS.

Genre : Non-Fiction

Anci’s book summary: Firstly shut the front door and someone send me tissues and flowers because my heart sob. I love Michelle Williams and thus this book was just a front-row seat to her life. Firstly kudos to her for sharing her story. In Checking In Michelle Williams shares the importance of checking in with yourself, your friends, community, and God. This book made me question a lot of things

Key Takeways:

  1. Gratitude can go a long way when your thoughts spiral sometimes
  2. It’s okay to work on your abs but also on your mind, spirit and heart
  3. Taking breaks should also be intentionally
  4. Talking to strangers about our problems is also normal

Memorable Quotable from Michelle

” We shouldn’t invite negative thoughts over for dinner,move them in, and share a bed with them”

“Part of checking in with yourself is becoming aware of what thoughts you’re having….”

What I loved about the book: Michelle’s honesty and humor

Cover rating : 4/5

Would you read more books by the author ? Yes!!

Do you recommend this book ? Yes

RATINGS (RATING OUT OF 5)

Rating: 4.5 out of 5.
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#WinterABC21 | What Delivery Apps Taught Me

I am all for convenience and for staying home especially now in the midst of a pandemic so I have been using Delivery Apps (who isn’t?) but these pps have taught me something about myself that I wouldn’t ordinarily confess but someone had to do it

  1. I have anxiety

After I have ordered something or paid for a delivery the waiting is unbearable for me. Thoughts like ‘what if they can’t find my house’ or ‘ what if I have been hoodwinked?’ consume me

2. I am scared of getting the short end of the stick

I do have experience of getting cracked and damaged stuff from delivery companies that have never reimbursed me so yes this tech thing also scares me

3. They do have shortfalls

Like ever signed into an app and it kept on buffering ?

I hope you laughed out loud with me at these

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#WinterABC21 | Tech Addiction Anonymous

I have always had this notion that I use tech like a normal person *wink wink* but boy was I wrong. So my siblings dared me to download Your Hour an app that tracks your phone addiction. Boy wasn’t I suprised to find that I have an addiction to my phone and can anyone else guess which app I am addicted to?

Tech is amazing because a) it connects us to all our family and friends and b) we stay in the loop. However if you watched the social dilemma then you are a quarter past to selling your phone and deleting instagram.

Allow me to re-introduce myself:

“My name is Ancillar and I am a boredom user and low-key addicted to my phone. I am excited to be part of Tech Addiction Anonymous’

Are you addicted to your phone?

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The Royal Mistress- A Review

Just a rant : Takalani needs to stop messing with my emotions like sis I am tired of feelinfg when reading your books

Genre : African Contemporary Romance

Trigger Warnings: Death of a parent

Anci’s book summary : Firstly shut the front door and someone send me tissues and flowers because my heart sob. The Royal Mistress tells the story of a young Venda prince Mulatshawe who is destined to marry his pre-ordained princess Luvhengo but his heart belongs to the waitress Rialivhuwa whome he met in the men’s bathroom.

Character/s I loved : I can’t possibly pick one so Ria for her daringness and her money savviness, Mula because he is a whole prince, Zoleka because she is a good friend and Rotshi because she is funny

Character/s I related to: The jury is still out on it

Character/s that made me cringe: AB because he was so nasty , Musanda because he could have made me cry in real life

Cover rating : 4/5

Would you read more books by the author ? Yes!!

Do you recommend this book ? Yes

RATINGS (RATING OUT OF 5)

Cuteness:

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

Emotional-o-meter:

Rating: 3 out of 5.

Kiss-o-meter:

Rating: 3 out of 5.

Scary-o-meter

Rating: 0.5 out of 5.

Steam-o-meter:

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

Overall rating:

Rating: 4 out of 5.

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A Lowcountry Bride- A Review

Just a rant : Sign me up for all the black girls in wedding gowns covers anyday all day long *smile*

Publishing Date : June 1st 2021

Genre : Contemporary Romance

Trigger Warnings: Death of a spouse/Death of a parent

Anci’s book summary : I am such a romantic and this book was proof *smiley face emoji* . A lowcountry bride tells the story of Maya Jackson who is a junior designer at a prestigious bridal company Laura Whitcomb, Inc in New York City.It was her mother’s dream to see her as a senior designer at Laura Whitcomb (because she is that prestigious) and Maya is so close to getting a promotion so she works towards it while battling sickle cell anemia. When her father fractures his hips she decides to go home for a bit to take care of him in South Carolina. While there she meets Derek who becomes her temporary employer as he owns a bridal shop and his daughter Jamila while trying to make a name a name of herself and impress her boss

Character/s I loved : Maya because she was just a sweetheart and Ginny (yep I love her)

Character/s I related to: Maya

Character/s that made me cringe: Laura

Cutest name ever : Ginny

Cover rating : 4.5 /5

Would you read more books by the author ? Yes

Do you recommend this book ? Yes

Would I Enjoy this book as Christian looking for clean romance? Yes!

RATINGS (RATING OUT OF 5)

Cuteness:

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

Emotional-o-meter:

⭐⭐

Kiss-o-meter:

⭐⭐

Steam-o-meter:

Rating: 0.5 out of 5.


Overall rating:

Rating: 4 out of 5.


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